It’s what I preach to myself when things feel too heavy. When I’m tempted to shoulder burdens not meant for me. When the world is whizzing by and the do-list is already too long and there’s another need that I’m tempted to try to meet but I have no more strength.
It’s okay to live your proper size, because:
- It’s reality. God is big; you are small. He is the source of all; you are dependent for every breath. And this is the way He wants it. The world says “Be independent”; God says “Come closer.”
- It’s part of the deal. Whom God creates, He carries. From birth to death, from creation to eternity. “Listen to me. . . you whom I have upheld since your birth and have carried since you were born. Even to your old age and grey hairs, I am he. I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you." (Isaiah 46:3-4)
- He who carries is strong. And He is Love. He can be trusted.
- It’s His work, not your own. You are His work, not your own. (Eph 2:10) That means you don’t have to fix yourself before coming back to snuggle small in his arms. The call is not to make yourself (or your world) flawless, but to lean in to the One who can make you complete and let him do his work in and through you. (John 15:4-5)
- He is still in control. Yes, really. You don't have to be.
- God alone can be everything to everyone. You are only asked to please One.
- You have nothing to prove because it has already been proven: you are to die for.
- You are small but precious. A tiny speck in the universe, but wildly significant because His love has made you great.
His love has made you great
It’s this last that I’ve been turning over and over in my mind for months. I want to whisper it to my millionaire neighbors as they show me their 5000 square foot rooftop balcony, speak of the amenities on their boat in the Mediterranean. You can stop trying to prove your value. There is a love that has resolved to make you great.
I want to cry it to the lame and speechless old man who shuffles behind his empty wheelchair onto the bus in a white gown that doesn’t quite cover his knees, stooping three times to reclaim the unlit cigarette that has fallen from his lips, again, again, again, replacing the filthy stick in his mouth. There's more! There is a love that has resolved to make you great.
I ache to shout it to each heart weary from carrying burdens it was not meant to carry. There is a love that has resolved to make you great. You can rest because you already matter.
I heard the words first from a man who has spent a lifetime digging deep into the heart of God. It’s the best definition of love that he knows.
“Love is the resolve to make the loved party great.” (J.I. Packer)
It's exactly what our God has done. He created us in his own image, made us to be as like Him as created beings can be (". . . a little lower than Elohim" - than God! Psalm 8:5). He loves us as He loves his own Son (John 17:23). He allows us to touch His heart and know His thoughts (1 Cor 2:9-16): to speak and listen, to desire and be desired, to know and be intimately known as the bride of the God of the universe.
In this, our union with Him, lies our greatness. I read the article and see a little more clearly.
“[Kate] must curtsy to ‘blood princesses’ when Prince William, her husband, is not present (when they are together, she retains his status)” ie. “When he’s there, they cursty to her.” (McLeans, July 16, 2012, p. 34)
When they are together she retains his status. So with us. God is big; we are small. He true royalty, we commoners. The distance between God and us is real. But so is the fact that his love is great enough to close the distance, calling us deep into a Lover-Beloved relationship with Himself.
We are in Him and He in us, inseparable once He makes us His own, and so we retain His status, loved as the Father loves the Son, made to rule along with him (1 Cor 6:2-3; Dan 7:18,27; Rev 20:4; 5:9-10), given a part in his work of shalom-making. Small, yet great. Great, yet still small. And so called to make our home in the only place where we can live our proper size.
"I've loved you the way my Father has loved me; make yourselves at home in my love." (John 15:9 The Message)
What does it mean to you today that God has resolved to make you great? What do you preach to yourself when you need to know that it’s okay to stay small?